http://www.thewuway.net/archives/235 Writers who really know China Sat, 23 May 2009 03:55:38 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 http://www.thewuway.net/archives/235/comment-page-1#comment-11859 Jocelyn Tue, 23 Dec 2008 20:02:55 +0000 http://www.thewuway.net/?p=235#comment-11859 Here's a comment sent to me via e-mail from my friend Tiffany, with a different perspective: ----- I cannot help a chuckle when I read about your description regarding Chinese men's marriages to foreign wives. I often wonder how you really adjust to Jun's family and their tradition view of "marry one's own". To be quite honest, that's why many Asian women "fled" and marry western men for the reasons of Chinese social view on male-dominating mentality. I remember growing up that we were told men could do no wrong - we were brought up to obey and follow our husbands with respectful silence. I was the first one in our class to marry, and to a foreigner. It was such a breaking news I think even my college principal would not speak to me or my family. Funny things happened though after my marrying an American, several of my classmates also took the pioneer stand in their own families marrying American, English, French and Aussi. I am not sure if they are still married to the same persons, I could certainly tell you these girls were very much outspoken and probably had too much western education at that time. We are talking about 20 years ago - nowaday, in Taiwan, marrying a foreigner seems to be quite common. Women's social status has much liberated since the day I left the island. Here’s a comment sent to me via e-mail from my friend Tiffany, with a different perspective:
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I cannot help a chuckle when I read about your description regarding Chinese men’s marriages to foreign wives. I often wonder how you really adjust to Jun’s family and their tradition view of “marry one’s own”. To be quite honest, that’s why many Asian women “fled” and marry western men for the reasons of Chinese social view on male-dominating mentality. I remember growing up that we were told men could do no wrong – we were brought up to obey and follow our husbands with respectful silence. I was the first one in our class to marry, and to a foreigner. It was such a breaking news I think even my college principal would not speak to me or my family. Funny things happened though after my marrying an American, several of my classmates also took the pioneer stand in their own families marrying American, English, French and Aussi. I am not sure if they are still married to the same persons, I could certainly tell you these girls were very much outspoken and probably had too much western education at that time. We are talking about 20 years ago – nowaday, in Taiwan, marrying a foreigner seems to be quite common. Women’s social status has much liberated since the day I left the island.

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